The perfect day! It sounds to good to be true, right?
For the sake of this post, we’re talking about having your perfect day right here, right now. Not your ideal day filled with travel and cocktails and swimming pools.
We’re creating your perfect day based on your everyday because I want you to have your perfect day right now!
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1.Write down what your everyday looks like now.
Include everything including how you wake up, what you eat for breakfast, what you listen to on the way to work. Get down to the nitty gritty details of an average day.
2. Define what your perfect day – that still involves your everyday activities such as going to work, cooking supper, heading to the gym, etc – looks like, feels like and includes.
You need to figure out what is a perfect day for you. Your perfect day will look different than your neighbour’s, and that’s okay. How do you want to feel during your perfect day? Is there a focus on your values? Do you feel like you make a difference on your perfect day? Do you spend time with certain people? Try to get as detailed as possible when planning your perfect day.
3. Recognize what parts of your everyday you currently love.
What parts of your day bring you joy or satisfaction? Do you love your morning coffee? Do you love tucking your kids into bed? Do you love sitting on your back porch? Think through a normal day and write down all the things that you love about it. These are the things that will stay a part of your perfect day.
4. Figure out which parts of your everyday you don’t love.
Whether they’re things you have to do or not, just write down the things you don’t love about your day. Do you not like waking up to your alarm? Do you not like your commute? What parts of your day make you cringe, or lower your mood?
5. Divide the parts of your day that you don’t love into two categories.
One category is things you can fix, and the other category is things you can’t change We’re about to start some problem solving!
6. Address the fixable items list.
Firstly, is there anything on your fixable items list that you can just opt out of entirely? Don’t love your tv habit? Just get rid of it!
Next, work through your list and figure out how you can fix these items so that you either love them, or you just make them work better in your day. Some examples:
You don’t like waking up to your alarm -> Go to bed earlier and train yourself to wake up without the alarm.
You don’t like your commute -> Look into carpooling with someone, try walking or biking to work if that’s available to you, or ask your boss about remote work from time to time.
Try to find a solution to every item on your list. You might need to get a little creative.
7. Change your mindset around the things that can’t be changed.
There are some things that, even though you don’t love them, have to stay a part of your perfect day. I’m mostly looking at work, here, but you know if there are other non-negotiables in your life.
And to cover all the bases, you could arguably “fix” your lack of love for work by taking the big step of finding a different job or pursuing that business you’ve always dreamed of. But we’re here to have your perfect everyday, and right now your everyday includes a job you don’t love.
Because we have these non-negotiables, we need to change our mindset around them.
Is there anything you like about your non-negotiables? Ask yourself why it’s non-negotiable.
If your non-negotiable is work, you can remind yourself that work provides you with money, which itself provides you with stability, security, food, funds to look after your family or go on trips. Work is a stepping-stone towards other benefits. You like that work provides that stepping stone. Without it, you’d have no way to get that stability, security, etc.
Try to find the good parts of your non-negotiables or reason with yourself as to why you’re glad to have them in your life.
8. Ask yourself if there’s anything else you’d like to incorporate into your perfect day.
Do you want to get outside more? Do you want to spend more time with people you love? What else is missing from your perfect day? Refer back to your original definition if you need help.
9. Figure out ways to put these things into your perfect day.
You might need to get creative here. There are only 24 hours in a day. If you want to get outside more, consider walking to work or the store or around the block. If you want to spend more time with people, try planning dinner dates, coffee dates, or phone calls. Maybe you want to read more. You could trade your social media time with reading.
Work through your list of things you want to incorporate into your perfect day and figure out how to fit them in, even if it’s just for fifteen minutes of the day.
10. Look over your work and write down your finished draft of your perfect everyday.
If you want to make any fixes, now’s the time to do it. After that, write down a clean copy of what your perfect day looks like.
11. Have a perfect day!
You’ve made the plan, now it’s time to put it into action. It might be a little hard to make those changes and adjust your mindset, but you can do it!
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Why do you need to have a perfect everyday? Because it’s the everdays that make life go by so quickly and we should be enjoying them as much as we can.
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Enjoy the journey!