Ah, long-distance relationships. I have experienced both the romantic and the best-friend kind. Actually, I’m currently in the midst of a long-distance relationship with my best friend. It’s pretty lame. But it’s great for her because she’s following her dreams and living an awesome life and blah blah blah… She knows I love her and support her unconditionally, like Katy Perry (UN-CON-DI-TIIIOOOOON-AAAAAALLLL!!!).
For those of you who are new to or are looking forward to beginning a fresh new long-distance friendship or relationship, here are some tips for surviving.
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Deny, deny, deny.
Let’s just pretend this isn’t happening, okay? You’re not really going away, I’m not really going away, everything is staying the same. Everything is sunshine and rainbows.
Realize that everything isn’t sunshine and rainbows.
Throw a boss going away party.
You may not be entirely happy about your friend living an expensive flight away, but you can make the most of it by having the best. time. ever. Be as crazy or lame as you want, but have an amazing time. And limit the number of cries to one. One cry only.
Bawl obnoxiously at the airport.
Warning: This long-distance thing is an emotional roller-coaster ride. Corkscrews, loops, steep drops, it’s all over the place.
Have incredibly long Skype conversations.
Is there such a thing as a short Skype conversation? Not with a long-distance friend, anyway. I give myself an hour minimum with my friend, and I still can’t stick to that. It always goes longer. Best to give yourself extra time, grab a snack, snuggle up in your pj’s, and settle in for a long night of catching up, advice giving and getting, laughter, and awesomeness.
Be terrible at staying in contact.
I admit that I am not good at staying in contact with my friends and family, even the ones who live in town. Although I’m getting better! But I have had some days when I think to myself, “Huh, I haven’t texted that person for a month. I should probably be a better friend and do that.” And then I don’t, because I’m terrible at staying in contact.
Fall in love with all of the social media.
Texting for sharing news, snapchat for making your friend laugh, Instagram for sneak peeks into each other’s lives… Now is the time to do long-distance because it’s really a lot less long than it was in the past. Now we can be in constant contact with each other from far away, rather wait for a letter that takes three months to travel across the ocean on a steam ship.
Send surprise mail.
Who doesn’t love getting mail??? As long as it’s not a bill or an annoying flyer, mail is the best. Send your friend a care package, or mail their birthday gift to them rather than waiting for your reunion. That package will make their day amazing, no matter what happens.
Know that you have a crazy awesome friendship that just keeps going and going…
My friend reminded me that with the best friendships, it doesn’t matter that you aren’t making new stories together for the time being. What matters is that your friendship runs on something deeper that that because that’s how you’re able to pick up right where you left off, even if you guys both dropped the ball and had that “huh, it’s been a month” moment. What matters is that you are always there to support and help each other, even though you’re living on opposite ends of the country. Not even long-distance can stop you.
So, even though I’m bummed every time I have to say goodbye to my best friend for months at a time, I know that it’ll be okay. She’s off doing amazing things and having the amazing life she wanted and I’ll be waiting patiently(ish) for her to come home for good. In the meantime, we’ll continue being there for each other just like always.
Good luck, long-distance team. Stay awesome.