Does anybody else out there have trouble figuring out the difference between laziness and necessary relaxation? Apparently we’re supposed to regularly take time to do something that is purely for enjoyment. For me, this isn’t as easy as it sounds. Maybe you feel the same way.
“I feel like if I’m not at work, I should be working on my side hustle.”
We’re such a go-go-go society these days. We’re supposed to want a side hustle and we’re supposed to wake up at some ungodly hour to make the time to work on it and we’re supposed to live and breathe that side hustle and every waking minute should be used to our advantage in order to further ourselves in life.
Dang, man, that’s a lot of work! It seems like free time is this big faux pas now. But is wanting free time lazy? Should we want to be working on our side businesses all the time? Or do we need down time that doesn’t have the pressure of ‘building a better life’ weighing it down?
“I’m not even sure what my purely-for-enjoyment hobbies are anymore…”
Dance used to be a hobby. Writing used to be a hobby. Now I’ve somehow turned both of those hobbies into passions that can bring in income if I play my cards right. But if you like what you do for work, does it stop being a hobby? What else am I supposed to do?
Somebody told me that everyone needs to recharge, and that means doing things that aren’t for work. But they can be little things – reading for ten minutes, calling a friend, going swimming. I’ve slowly been learning that my little recharging things are reading, painting my nails, and working on itty bitty projects (the latest one was a scrapbook of a trip I went on three years ag0!). Nothing particularly good comes out of my doing them, except for the fact that I get to recharge, and nothing bad happens if I don’t do them, except that I don’t recharge – it’s all just for me and my health.
“Sometimes when I do those recharging things, I feel like I should be doing something more productive.”
Ah, that word! Productivity! It’s everywhere! I’m obsessed with it and obsessed with learning how to be the most productive human being I can be. I think our society needs to mellow out on the go-go-go attitude. I think it would be great if we could focus a little less on how to do the most we can and focus more being the best we can be. What I mean by that is, let’s worry less about to-do lists and more about health and happiness.
That isn’t to say we should stop trying so hard to do amazing things. But I think it would be a good idea to stop trying so constantly.
I shouldn’t question myself every time I take some me-time to ask if this is really for self-care or if I’m just being lazy. That’s a pretty twisted attitude, in my opinion.
In case you need to hear it from another person: Yes, you are allowed to take time to do nothing. In fact, you have to. You need to! It’s not lazy, it’s self-care.
With that, I’m off to try to follow my own advice.
Here’s to doing nothing!