There are some pretty obvious parts to self-care that everyone seems to have down pat: doing things that you enjoy, exercise, meditation or some other form of mindfulness, knowing when to work and when to play (AKA Imperfect Work-Life Balance). We got these, we know these, we do these!
But what are some of the things we forget about when it comes to self care?
You have to be gentle with yourself when it comes to self-care. Because some days you’re going to be on top of the world and you’re going to work through your wellness routines no problem. And some days you’re going to feel down or sad or anxious (hello, it’s still a pandemic, y’all) and you’ll find yourself stuffing your face with cookies or going down a rabbit hole of negativity or not knowing when to rest. And that’s okay.
You have to be gentle with yourself because you’re not perfect. You will make mistakes, you’ll fall off the wagon, you’ll find ways to cope. And then you’ll dust yourself off and work through those darker times.
Doing more than pushing a button
I know you already know that exercise is a form of self-care, but that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about doing something that calls for you to make something out of nothing. Creating something with your hands, doing work that isn’t pushing a button.
There’s something real about knitting a scarf, or planting a garden, or chopping vegetables. There’s productivity in building a chair, washing the dishes, or sewing clothes. In doing something that calls for your hands, you find purpose, work, and a need for your physical presence.
Simply put, you won’t know what forms of self-care you need if you don’t know yourself. What are your values, your likes and dislikes? What sort of temperament do you have? When do you feel most creative? When does your energy dwindle? The more you know about yourself, the more you know about what you need.
Pursuit of meaning
What are you going to make of yourself? What legacy will you leave behind? Figuring out your purpose in life or in this season of your life will give you drive and motivation. It will help you figure out your next steps.
Your self-care needs are going to change as you grow. So while you need bubble baths as part of your nighttime routine these days, that bubble bath might morph into an evening stretch and meditation. Let yourself and your habits grow without judgement (and with gentless!).
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There are so many aspects of self-care and it’s important to know that in order to live a well-rounded life, we have to look after not just one part of ourself, but all the parts.
What are some important aspects of self-care that you feel more people need to know about?
Enjoy the journey.
P.S. One more resource for you! Check out the Self-Care Workbook here!