In case you didn’t know (it’s okay if you didn’t, I kind of kept it under wraps online), I’m getting married in the near future! The fiance and I got engaged in November of 2019 and started planning our wedding early 2020.
Then the global pandemic happened. Here’s what happened next.
Planning got put on HOLD.
Because of initial physical distancing measures, everything was getting cancelled, businesses were trying to figure the now out and were unable to worry about twelve months into the future, and nobody knew what tomorrow was going to look like, let alone next year.
We’re getting married in the spring of 2021. That was always the plan, and now that we can start planning again, that’s what we’re sticking with. But the wedding itself is looking so different.
Things that have changed:
Our guest list.
The original plan was to invite around 140 people. But because we don’t know what next spring will look like and we don’t feel like planning two wedding scenarios at once, we’ve cut the guest list down to 30. We figure there would have to be an extremely bad turn of events to bring gatherings back below 30 since that’s where we’re at right now, but we don’t think it’s likely we’ll be seeing large gatherings happening within the next year. It just feels safer and like there’ll be less headache.
The original venue was for a larger crowd. And they’re closed until January 2021, which doesn’t make us believe we can count on it as a venue right now. Instead, we’re looking into smaller venues that are already booking small weddings. That in itself is proving to be a major challenge with businesses closing down or choosing not to book for the next year.
Our wedding will include a ceremony, dinner, speeches, and general socializing with our 30 guests. At a later date (whether that’s a year from the wedding, two years, or our fifth year anniversary – whenever the pandemic is officially over) we will have a vow renewal and dance with our original 140 guests. I really really really wanted a dance and I will get it eventually, but for now it’s postponed.
What has stayed the same despite the pandemic:
- Our wedding party.
- The date.
- The fact that we’re getting married!
That’s the important part! And that’s why I didn’t want to let go of the date we had originally set. I wanna get married!!
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So what’s it like planning a wedding during a pandemic? Annoying. Frustrating. And a little bit the same. It requires flexibility and adaptability, problem solving skills and prioritizing. It’s tricky and also simplifies the whole event (30 guests, only 30 meals!). And now I’m part of a generation of women and men who have interesting stories about being Covid Brides and having Covid Weddings.
It is what it is.
Any other Covid Weddings out there? What have your experiences been?
Enjoy the journey,