Being basic. Basic AF. Basic b****. You’ve likely heard some variation of these slang terms at some point in your life. Did you know that there is a negative connotation to being basic?
I saw a post on Facebook a while back that really bummed me out. It was a picture of these two women – probably an adult daughter with her mom – and they looked so fabulous.
They had long, loosely curled hair, immaculate eyebrows, tanned skin, white teeth. They wore cardigans, jeans, and tall brown boots. They were standing outside a coffee shop with their (probably) pumpkin spiced lattes.
And the comments section was destroying them.
Complete strangers were calling them basic b****es. People were insinuating that these two women must be complete idiots. They’re slaves to capitalism. God, are we glad we’re not those women.
Because our biggest problem in this world is that there are people who like popular things. (Note the sarcasm here.)
The comments on this post bummed me out because all these people were judging these women based on a single image. Maybe they are slaves to capitalism – is your comment going to change that? Maybe they are vapid valley girls whose only priorities are getting their nails done and drinking good wine – then use your reach on social media to encourage different thinking, don’t use it to insult people. Maybe they are so insecure about themselves that keeping up with these fads makes them feel like they belong – find some compassion to understand their situation.
But the fact is, those commenters don’t know. They don’t know if those ‘basic b****es’ are slaves to capitalism, vapid valley girls, insecure, or if they’re doctors, or run charities, or are just a couple average women who find simple joy in their pumpkin spiced lattes. Those people judging these women based on a single image don’t know anything else about them and have decided that it’s okay to make fun of them.
The comments on this post bummed me out because they revealed that there are so many people in this world who have waged war on the dumbest things. Is it really the best use of your time to try to put an end to loose-curls and knee-high boots? Or do you maybe want to try to put your effort towards something a little more meaningful?
- The Do’s and Don’t’s of Compliments
- The Irrelevant Comparison Game
- Here’s Why You Don’t Need to Pick a Fight with The Person Who Cut You Off
Perhaps I should show compassion to those commenters. Maybe they’re insecure in their own lives and the only way they know how to feel better is to tear other people down. To that, I say this is my way of encouraging them to put their effort into something else, and to find a different way to feel better, one that might leave a little more positivity behind.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this issue. Do you agree with me? Did I totally miss the mark on something? Comment below!
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